Are you self-confident?
“Well, maybe, I don’t know, sometimes … depending on what situation we are talking about”
That would probably be the answer coming from most of us. Some would confidentially just say “Yes, I am!” while others would quietly say “noooo, I don’t think so”.
Self-confidence is situation specific. It is important to remember that self-confidence derives from self-esteem, which is a more of an overall general view of ones self. This means that you can be high in self-esteem and low in self-confidence at times, or in situations. And on the other hand you can also be high in self-confidence, while hiding a low level of self-esteem.
Confidence is not something that you just ‘have’ or just ‘get’. Some people have it in overload, and some people never learn how to feel self-confident. The people who have it in overload have somehow learned to be, and feel, self-confident maybe from their parents, from their sport, their friends or the environment surrounding them.
My point is this; self-confidence is something you can train!
Our ability to perform is interconnected with out perception of our ability to perform. In other words, if you don’t believe you can do it, you probably wont be able to do it.
Have you ever thought about how your self-confidence interferes with doing specific skills in the gym? Or how your thoughts of your own abilities have an impact on how you get through a WOD?
Self-confidence training starts with setting goals. When you work with goal-setting you give yourself the possibility of succeeding, because you are consciously working towards something.
For every little step of reaching a goal, even if it’s just the amount of double-unders you can do in a row, or being able to go without sugar for an entire weekend, or complete a 10k run, it’s those small steps that make the difference. You need to acknowledge yourself for what you do! And the way you do that is by making your journey a conscious one. You need to know when to feel success!
Because when you reach something, no matter what it is – the only thing that matters is that you acknowledge it, to feel successful.
When you feel successful, you will enhance your self- confidence.
Also pay attention to the fact, that the fittest man and woman on earth probably haven’t reached their position without a conscious process towards specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely set goals!
Make sure, that you, in your process of reaching a goal, which with time will enhance your self-confidence, have these five questions in mind:
- Be specific – what do you want?
- Be measurable – when would you know when you have reached it?
- Be attainable – make sure your goal is possible!
- Be realistic – make sure your goal fits in with everything else in your life!
- Be timely – set a time frame!
As an example, you can set a goal for every WOD you do. This way you train yourself to focus on specific things and feel like you have accomplished something every training session you have.
So remember – It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not! Change this!
“A 100% performance requires a 100% confidence“